Dominance and submission are not unique to BDSM, it is deeply wired in our psychology as a species. Hierarchy is a natural human phenomenon. We are status-oriented, competitive, and we seek to feel important than and superior to others. No matter how many times we uphold the myth of "freedom and equality", we live in a world of social stratification, rich and poor, ruler and ruled whereby the majority submit to the will of the minority. Hierarchical structures exist in almost every organization -- military, government, corporations, religion, sports teams, families, etc. This alpha-omega model is necessary for us to live cooperatively (Thomas Hobbes asserted that it helps to promote internal order within communities), to make decisions so that it can be carried out efficiently, to ensure the survival of the group for the next generation. This primordial ranking behavior has defined us since the dawn of our race. The ubiquity of dominance and submission in our world is often seen in the form of competition. Charles Darwin noted that we are competitive over food, and, more importantly, over sex. One of the purposes of establishing hierarchy is so that those who land at the top of the pecking order will gain the sexual favors of the opposite sex, typically between males for access to females. Coming out ahead is a display of one's genetic endowments, AKA ideal sperm donor. Yesterday's muscles and hunting skills are replaced by today's cars and bank accounts. People need to know where they stand and who has the power, who is the best, who has the most resources. In other words, who is superior and who is inferior, who gets to mate (and live), and whose genes must die with the generation.
Read moreThe Eastern Question: Why do subs Love Asian Dommes?
An Asian Dominatrix is a seductive mixture of beauty and mystery for Caucasian men, who make up 90% of My submissives. An Asian Domme is a fetish within a fetish. There are men who wish to submit to Women...and then there are men who specifically wish to submit to Asian Women. Why?
Men with an "Asian fetish" consider Asian Women to be extremely attractive--physically and mentally. Even before I was a full-fledged FemDomme, I was showered with attention from Western men who absolutely adored My petite physique, My soft black hair, My silky-smooth skin, My superior intellect and My refined mannerisms as result of My Chinese upbringing.
Read moreFarewell Lauren Bacall, My Kind of Woman
I must take My leather gloves off and bid farewell to one of My favorite actresses of all time -- the unbelievably sexy, one-of-a-kind Lauren Bacall who passed away this last month. Ever since I saw her in To Have and Have Not, I was swept away by her irresistible femininity, her take-no-prisoner approach to seduction, and her unapologetic straightforwardness. Her inimitable style embodied class, yet hints at a masculine undertone to complement her tough broad demeanor. Bold, elegant, and with a stunning face that melts and kills, she was a Dominatrix in My book. They just don't make actresses like her anymore. Her no-BS and in-your-face attitude, mixed with her poisonous charm belong to a bygone era. She possessed both sophistication as well as a rawness about her that made her human and vulnerable.
She was My kind of Woman. Rest in peace.
Below is My favorite Lauren Bacall scene, from her movie with Humphrey Bogart To Have and Have Not.
It brilliantly illustrates the power that Women have over men.
What I Look for in a Submissive Male
I love submissive men. I have had the pleasure of being served by men from around the world, of all backgrounds and age groups, and I feel immensely excited whenever I receive a letter from a new sub. In My ever elitist opinion, I consider My subs to be the cream of the crop (pun intended!). They are all exceptionally well behaved, polite to a fault, fiercely intelligent, well educated, successful and driven, and they all live to please and serve a worthy Woman.
Do you think you have what it takes to serve Me?
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