The Psychology of Financial Domination

Financial Domination is that rare BDSM fantasy that, from the outside world of “vanilla heteronormativity”, is baffling to the mind; and from the point of view of the professional dominatrix, too good to be true. Throughout the years I have trained 'money slaves' of various breeds and it is only now that I feel I am experienced enough to deconstruct for you the mind of a financial submissive. 

What is financial domination (FinDom)? First, I will clarify what is NOT financial domination: it is NOT an unethical exploitation of a male sub, it is NOT an easy way for women to advertise online as financial dominatrices as a get-rich-quick scheme by using men, it is NOT a woman who makes a career out of asking men to subsidize all her living expenses, it is NOT woman who only wants to be spoiled with money or gifts -- and nothing else -- from men (a financial dominatrix is not to be confused with a 'sugar baby'). A woman who falsely poses as a findom Mistress because she needs the money possesses zero power in this game. 

My definition is as follows: Financial Domination is a sexually arousing GAME of power-play whereby psychological pleasure is experienced as a result of the humiliation from giving up one's monetary assets to another. The FinDom fantasy exists in predominantly MALE subs (there is very little evidence to suggest that women enjoy this type of power play). A financial dominatrix enjoys this game for the thrill of humiliating her money-slave, she does not need the money and she will say "no" to whomever displeases her--therein lies her power. There are 3 main reason why some subs enjoy financial domination: control, humiliation, and service. 

Financial Domination is able to exist and (actually become a fetish or desire for some) because of certain Universal Rules of Life (UROL) for men, unchanged by feminism:

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A Tribute to My Fellow Kinky Folk

After more than half a decade of training slaves from many corners of the globe, My journey into Mistressdom would not have been possible without the bold, passionate, and talented women I have met along the way. Each of the following Dominatrices/BDSM educators have contributed to My knowledge of BDSM with their guidance, friendship, and compassion. Some of them have been living this lifestyle for decades, devoting their life to their craft and educating others on the art of kink. Some have even been kind enough to invite Me into their immaculately appointed playspaces, allowing Me to use their facilities and inspiring Me to design My own one day. If you ever find yourself in any one of their territories, do reach out to them for training, discipline, and education. 


San Diego: Mistress Porcelain Midnight  

Los Angeles: Mistress Nicolette, Mistress Lucy Khan, Ms. Kaila Yi, Mistress An Li, Mistress Damiana Chi, Mistress Jezebel Chi, Justine Cross, Mistress Kiko,

San Francisco: Mistress Morgana, Domina Yuki, Domina Colette, Mistress Lillian, Mistress Ophelia Margaux, Mistress Vivienne Vai, Mistress Eva Sterling, Dominatrix Carmen


Mistress Molly


Mistress Lucy Sweetkill and Mistress Dia Dynasty of La Maison du RougeMistress Ariana, MarcusLikesIt, Yin Q , Mistress Paige, Troy Orleans, Mistress Blunt


  Mistress Tyler


Toronto: Lady Azelle


Goddess Maya Liyer


Domina M


Mistress Euryale


Ms. Amber, Mistress Estella


Domina Fire, Mistress Joyen



Why you Cannot See Me for Free: A Post for All the Aspiring "Personal slaves"

I have just declined a very earnest slave's request to see Me for 'drinks and dinner'. In the normal dating world, this is a perfectly thoughtful gesture of an invite, but a major blunder in the world of Professional Domination. Why? Because he wanted to serve Me on a level in which he does not need to pay tribute. Unfortunately, this is not the first time it has occurred. I am writing this post on behalf of ALL ProfessionalMistresses who dare to make a life out of dominating and training slaves, who dare to put themselves out there at the risk of serious bodily harm every single day, who dare to bare the possibility of ostracism when they reveal what they do to friends and family--people whose opinions they care about, who dare to live their lives based on their own terms. We Professional Mistresses require tribute for Our time because We have turned our craft into a sustainable livelihood--that is the desire and goal of ANYONE with passion for what they do in ANY FIELD.

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The Purpose of Paying Tribute & Real Female Supremacy

Last week, a submissive from San Francisco had the honor of serving Me. Towards the end of the session, he, well-meaning gentleman that he is, blurted out, "You have certainly earned your tribute." If he wasn't such a sweet puppy dog that ate food off the bottom of My boots earlier, I would have whipped him to the point of permanent trauma (responsibly of course). Serving a Professional Mistress is not a cheap endeavor. Even by first-world standards, the majority of submissives must consider and budget before they withdraw $300+ from the ATM.

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