What sugars and spices go into the Dominatrix Dish? What makes a Woman a Dominatrix? What are the essential components of a Mistress? *I will use the word "Dominatrix" and "Mistress" interchangeably.

The short and simple answer is that a Dominatrix is whatever you fantasize her to be. Sexy, cruel, demanding, leather-clad, insert adjective.

The dictionary answer--a Woman who plays the dominant role in a sado-masochistic sexual relationship or encounter (notice the use of the words "plays...the role").