Interview with a Conscious Submissive Male

I had the pleasure and privilege of engaging in a most stimulating discussion with Paltego, the owner and operator of Femdom-Resource, an exceptionally informative website celebrating one intelligent man's journey in submission and his appreciation for the beauty and art of female domination. His is one of the best male-sub blogs online and I encourage all of you--tops and bottoms alike--to visit his domain. Clearly a labor of love (and hormones!), Femdom-Resource also houses a well-curated collection of Femdom art, photography, videos, erotic fiction, and more. A source for quality Femdom/male-sub content, Paltego created a platform from which to engage with kinksters and promote his favorite Mistresses and their blogs (I was humbled to find My "Mind of the Mistress" page on his list). 

Paltego was kind enough to grant Me a written interview detailing his experiences as a sub, his analysis on the submissive mindset, and his experiences with some of the most preeminent professional Mistresses in the country. Our exchange was illuminating and thought-provoking, and I was moved to reexamine My own FemDom philosophy and how I present Myself to the world. 

With Paltego's expressed permission, below are the insights and musings of a thinking, rational, and hopelessly submissive man (My favorite kind!):

1) How did you come to develop your submissive identity? And around what age?

Getting my current identity was a lengthy process. I grew up in a tiny English village in the 80’s, when the internet was still an academic/military curiosity. We didn’t even have a TV for a lot of my childhood, so it was very different to the information saturation we have today.

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I Wish I Could Tell My Wife: I am Kinky (A married slave's 'confession')

...But it’s a deep, dark secret I’ve been hiding from her.

Full disclosure: I have kinky fantasies, secret desires and for the past 2 years I’ve been exploring this side of myself with a professional dominatrix (yes, she has a whip and sometimes wears a catsuit). I’m embarrassed to tell my wife because she might think I’m a perverted weirdo, and I don’t want her to freak out and leave me. 

This is what I wish I could tell her:

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Miss Ava Zhang’s 1st Annual Kink Bacchanal in NYC - December 16th 2017

“A time of direct gestures, shameless discourse, and open transgressions, when anatomies were shown and intermingled at will.” - Michel Foucault


My fellow New Yorkers,

I will be hosting My first annual holiday kink Bacchanal in New York City this December. NYC has become a second home to Me throughout the years and it is only fitting that I orchestrate a night of BDSM revelry for the perverts and die-hard deviants of this city. 

A limited number of well-selected guests will be attending My event. For all those who know and have served Me, you understand that I have a discerning palate for members of My species.


December 16th. 9pm - 4am


To be held in a well-appointed hotel penthouse in Midtown Manhattan. Exact location will be disclosed after invitation has been formally extended in private.


Ladies and gentlemen who lean toward submission, Dominant Women and their minions, limited number of Dominant men and their female subjects, LGBTQ couples, hedonists with a kinky flair, sissies, Owners and slaves, trainers and puppies, cuckold couples and their bulls, keyholders and their chastity slaves, rope tops and bunnies, latex and leather enthusiasts, sadists and masochists, and fetishists of all fixations. 


Please send a well-written introduction to My email at your email should reflect that of an evolved mind, a sense of adventure, and a charming nod to courtesy and refinement. Kindly include a photo of you and your deviant half as such is required. (Due to high volume of inquiries, I will not be able to respond to every email)



$500/single male slave (limited attendance) 

Single ladies are invited without adhering to pecuniary commitments.


Ladies: tastefully seductive 

Gentlemen: tasteful  

***Attendees may change into more extravagant kink attire upon entrance. 

I look forward to enabling your debauchery.  

Miss Ava Zhang