Interview with a Conscious Submissive Male

I had the pleasure and privilege of engaging in a most stimulating discussion with Paltego, the owner and operator of Femdom-Resource, an exceptionally informative website celebrating one intelligent man's journey in submission and his appreciation for the beauty and art of female domination. His is one of the best male-sub blogs online and I encourage all of you--tops and bottoms alike--to visit his domain. Clearly a labor of love (and hormones!), Femdom-Resource also houses a well-curated collection of Femdom art, photography, videos, erotic fiction, and more. A source for quality Femdom/male-sub content, Paltego created a platform from which to engage with kinksters and promote his favorite Mistresses and their blogs (I was humbled to find My "Mind of the Mistress" page on his list). 

Paltego was kind enough to grant Me a written interview detailing his experiences as a sub, his analysis on the submissive mindset, and his experiences with some of the most preeminent professional Mistresses in the country. Our exchange was illuminating and thought-provoking, and I was moved to reexamine My own FemDom philosophy and how I present Myself to the world. 

With Paltego's expressed permission, below are the insights and musings of a thinking, rational, and hopelessly submissive man (My favorite kind!):

1) How did you come to develop your submissive identity? And around what age?

Getting my current identity was a lengthy process. I grew up in a tiny English village in the 80’s, when the internet was still an academic/military curiosity. We didn’t even have a TV for a lot of my childhood, so it was very different to the information saturation we have today.

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The Benefits of Male Chastity

Chastity Training is a fine art in the realm of Dominance and submission. The ability to control a man's primal urges for frequent sexual release poses as one of the more challenging disciplines of the Mistress and slave dynamic. A central focal point of his daily rhythm and distraction, the very thought of handing the keys of his virile vehicle over to a Mistress can be downright terrifying. The notion that a Woman should dictate the timing of his orgasms as well as when he may even have skin contact with his main member is not for the slave who merely wishes to dabble and dally. For most men, their modus operanti is the lifelong reliance upon self-gratification that often takes on the form of compulsive, less-than-satisfying, linear starts to finishes. 

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A Tribute to My Fellow Kinky Folk

After more than half a decade of training slaves from many corners of the globe, My journey into Mistressdom would not have been possible without the bold, passionate, and talented women I have met along the way. Each of the following Dominatrices/BDSM educators have contributed to My knowledge of BDSM with their guidance, friendship, and compassion. Some of them have been living this lifestyle for decades, devoting their life to their craft and educating others on the art of kink. Some have even been kind enough to invite Me into their immaculately appointed playspaces, allowing Me to use their facilities and inspiring Me to design My own one day. If you ever find yourself in any one of their territories, do reach out to them for training, discipline, and education. 

-CALIFORNIA

San Diego: Mistress Porcelain Midnight  

Los Angeles: Mistress Nicolette, Mistress Lucy Khan, Ms. Kaila Yi, Mistress An Li, Mistress Damiana Chi, Mistress Jezebel Chi, Justine Cross, Mistress Kiko,

San Francisco: Mistress Morgana, Domina Yuki, Domina Colette, Mistress Lillian, Mistress Ophelia Margaux, Mistress Vivienne Vai, Mistress Eva Sterling, Dominatrix Carmen

-NEW HAMPSHIRE

Mistress Molly

-NEW YORK

Mistress Lucy Sweetkill and Mistress Dia Dynasty of La Maison du RougeMistress Ariana, MarcusLikesIt, Yin Q , Mistress Paige, Troy Orleans, Mistress Blunt

-WASHINGTON DC

  Mistress Tyler

-CANADA

Toronto: Lady Azelle

-LONDON, UK

Goddess Maya Liyer

-PARIS, FRANCE

Domina M

-HONG KONG

Mistress Euryale

-SINGAPORE

Ms. Amber, Mistress Estella

-MANILA, PHILIPPINES

Domina Fire, Mistress Joyen

 

 

The Sadism Inside Me: The Case for Cruelty

Being a disciplinarian, for Me, has always been one of the more fascinating means by which to correct or punish a slave's behavior. As a Mistress I employ various forms of physical and psychological training to re-educate and re-condition My subjects, however it is when a masochist kneels before Me that I feel a raw and nearly uninhibited sense of excitement as a human being. Even with the understanding that any such training is always consensual, the very act of inflicting pain on My slave's body and watching him writhe in agony gives Me a strangely primal sense of satisfaction. In fact, the more a slave cries out upon impact from My instrument of torture, the more I want to continue My path of darkness just so I can hear him scream and beg for mercy. The only thing that tempers My instinct to destroy the individual in front of me is My compassion in understanding his need to feel My control. It is in these moments of sadism that My thinking, reasoning self diminishes, and a beast--an animal--within Me emerges, perhaps telling Me a story about My innate human nature that is older than civilization. 

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